Friday, March 8, 2013

Word of the Day.... March 8, 2013

We must think before we speak or act. James said "So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath"
(James 1:19).

I was listening to one of the pastors speak about relationships and it really made an impact on my life and I started to think how can I put the three “R’s” of a great relationship into play in my own life.  We all have relationships with other people; some of them are great, some of them aren't so great...and some of them are downright bad. And a lesson to be learned is "Be careful how you handle your relationships." Though they're precious, they can be very fragile. One incident, one word spoken in wrath or anger, one action, can sever a relationship. And the consequences can last for years, or even a lifetime.

God gave us two ears and one mouth. I wish we would function in that equation--listening twice as much as we talk. We have to think through what this action or these harsh words will do to the relationship in the long run. Sometimes it can be really difficult to do at least in my life.  When I get angry my mouth goes off before my ears have a chance to process everything they heard and I can say some things that are very hurtful to other people.  This is something that the Lord has been working with me on.  Growth is never easy but it is so worth it when we His work accomplished in our heart and lives.

So what are the three “R’s” of good relationships that pastor was talking about?
1.  Repentance:  Humble yourself and repent for what you have done wrong in your relationship.
2.    Responsibility:  Take responsibility for your part of the mess that has been made.
3.    Results:  Repent of the wrong that was done, take responsibility for your part in it, and you’ll see results.

How do you get the other person to go along with your three “R’s”?  You can’t.  You can only do your part.  We are only responsible for our own actions and not what the other person says or does.  The hard part is if you withhold forgiveness and something bad happens and you are never ever able to make it right.  That can be a really hard thing to live with.  That is why I like what the Bible tells us: To never let the sun go down on your anger.  For anger gives a foothold to the devil Ephesians 4:26-27.

I am so glad the weekend is finally here!  I hope that you all have a Simply Heavenly Friday and enjoy your weekend!!!


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